Why this one thing is bugging me so intensely I have no idea, but perhaps some of you can give me a suggestion as to how to deal with it....
So the 11 year old was told to take a shower this morning during the kids' two hour snow delay. He is flat out filthy, but our schedule just kept him from getting one last night when he should have taken one. He seemed perfectly fine with this plan; didn't seem to be remotely a big deal to him and off I went to work.
Brad calls me a little later and among other things tells me that Ted totally lied about showering. He told Brad he had taken one, pointed to his still damp hair as proof and completely stuck to the lie when pressed. When in reality he had gone up and slightly dampened his hair with the specific intent of deceiving Brad. The kid doesn't even mind taking showers. I'm thinking he did it just to see if he could, though I wasn't there.
My quick gut reaction was to bring down the wrath of thunder (whatever that is) upon his head. How dare he set out to do such a bone headed thing - and yes I know it's a stupid little thing which of course he's tried in the past with wetting his toothbrush too - but I swear I'm so wildly annoyed about this I don't know what to do.
Any thoughts?
Friday
7 years ago
6 comments:
I think I'd just handle it without anger, but with vast disappointment. Like, "Why would you lie? I don't get it. That really hurts me." I find that works sometimes when nothing else does.
I concur with the lack of anger talk. Also with mine, I calmly talk to them about what lying leads to and ask them how they would like it if in the future I didn't believe them because of their reputation for telling fibs.
M
Hmmm.....
They love to keep dishing out these little puzzles don't they.
I think I'd completely ignore it.
THEN. When its his next shower date....I'd help him. Tell him you've noticed he wasn't able to get the job done on his own....so you thought it best to help him.
My guess, he won't love that.
Thanks guys, my issue is less with the lying than it is with the very intentional deception. The going upstairs and getting his hair wet with the sole purpose of deceiving his father.... I'm thinking of getting Brad to bathe him (if I can so convince him)... "clearly you aren't old enough to be trusted to bathe on your own and I have some time now so I'll give you a bath, let's go fill the tub" I'm thinking this would be horrible and very memorable to an 11 year old. I'd do it myself but I think that would be too much.
Ooh Kathy our posts crossed and you are clearly thinking along the same lines as I am.
LOLOLOL. GMTA!!!
I think that would be a very "memorable" experience....and I doubt he would repeat his AM preformance....let us know how it goes!
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